As a Refined Food Addict and Overeater in Recovery, and an Afrikan woman diagnosed w/ several mental illnesses (PTSD, Anxiety, Bi-polar Disorder and Depression), I’m grateful something like Mental Health Awareness Month exists (May)…The first pic is from over 20 yrs ago…I was nearing 250lbs on a 5’6 frame, unhappy, battling Refined Food Addiction, Overeating and symptoms of the above Diagnoses…The 2nd pic is from this year…Now eating SOFAS Free (Salt Oil Flour Alcohol Sugar Free) Whole Food Plant Exclusive since the beginning of last year, Successfully dropping the last 64lbs necessary in less than 8 months (without an exercise routine involved), Sustainably keeping it off for over 9 months, and receiving therapy, gratefully, I’m alot happier, have heaps more energy and Prioritize my Self-Care, which all assists me with being a better me and more present parent…It’s important I remind myself, No matter how much it may feel like it, I.Am.Not.Alone….and I refuse to stay quiet due to others being uncomfortable around these topics because I want others to know, You.Are.Not.Alone…We got this and I Love You..Here’s to our health, Divine Self-Care and our Family’s Freedom For free assistance, crisis counseling and more, Go to NAMI (National Alliance of Mental Illness) online (www.nami.org) or call them: 800-950-6264 M-F 10am-8pm EST or text “NAMI” to 741741 Anytime, for Crisis counseling Refrain from any kind of opinions or religious advice on this post, I’m under the competent care of health professionals. #mentalhealthawarenessmonth#foreverunschooled
Even after being on this Unschooling journey for over 10 years, I’m consistently reminded I still have Sooo much work to do surrounding conditioning, programming, still so much Deschooling to do…recently gifted my youngest an early graduation present of her first car and I’ve been finding so much conditioning popping up within me that I have to work through for the betterment of our relationship..So, I continue to take a lot of deep breaths, be Super gentle w/ myself, Prioritize my Self-Care and encourage myself to pause before speaking/acting and Actually think through the consequences of my words/actions on her self-esteem and confidence…though there are days when this work is not easy, I’m grateful to discover…our family deserves this Effort and it’s beyond Worth it…#FreeAfrikanTeenGoddess sure looks good on her..Here’s to our Family’s Freedom#ForeverUnschooled
One day I was on a phone call w/ one of my parents and shared some personal good news w/ them..once I was done, they immediately went into a space of telling me to be careful because of this and that bad thing that could happen…I paused, reminding myself not to feel disappointed that they didn’t just immediately Celebrate the good news w/ me…and while we continued to talk, a light bulb came on: I’ve done this to my own children as well…and I made a mental note to work on this within myself for the sake of my children’s ability to Trust the decisions they’re making for themselves..instead of doubting themselves because I projected doubt when they share their news, and life with me…I’m grateful Unschooling encourages this kind of thought analysis and self-reflection…#FreeAfrikanTeenGoddess sure looks good on her…Here’s to our Family’s Freedom#ForeverUnschooled (Pic is of the youngest feeling proud of an accomplishment of hers)
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I’m grateful for those of you who have been contacting me to let me know how this book has been positively assisting you with Letting Go as you progress on your Unschooling journey…you should be proud of your Powerful investment in yourself and your family…Here’s to our Family’s Freedom#ForeverUnschooled#SelfCare#PeaceOfMind
“Will them being Unschooled get in the way of them going to college?” was one of the most frequent questions posed to me over 10 years ago when I would tell some about our Unschooling Lifestyle…my answer then is the same as my answer now…These children will Accomplish Whatever They Put Their Mind To as they’re being given the Freedom to pursue What They Want…To Put Their Mind To…she’s made her decision for Pre-Vet Undergrad: Hollins University it is…#FreeAfrikanTeenGoddess sure looks good on her…Here’s to our Family’s Freedom#ForeverUnschooled
A few weeks ago I interviewed w/ The Unschooling Squad on their Conversations on Living Learning Show. We discussed some jewels I’ve been learning over the last 10 yrs. To see the replay, click here: https://youtu.be/cXsWJAFy5DI Enjoy!
When I first discovered the concept of Unschooling over 10 years ago, I remember being struck by how logical it sounded to Trust our children’s intuition, so in turn, they would be Empowered to Trust their intuition…Years and Years later of Continued Deschooling, this is what it can look like when children can grow up being given the Freedom and Support, to Trust themselves…Going on Solo Trips they initiate, to other states and cities, New Worlds to them, planning out their entire itineraries that include seeing sights and listening to sounds they Want to…all while Knowing they can count on a Soft Landing Space in their parent….We continue to work on this one day at a time…#FreeAfrikanTeenGoddess sure looks good on her…Here’s to our Family’s Freedom#ForeverUnschooled
Sometimes a day in our lives as Unschoolers, can look like…lessons she wants to take…whether it be Snowboarding, Skiing, Horseback riding, Archery, Parkour, Djing, Scuba Diving, Afrikan Dance…and the list goes on…It’s been a privilege to observe where their hearts lead them…and a privilege to be able to figure out how to assist in facilitating these journeys…#FreeAfrikanChild sure looks good on her…Here’s to our Family’s Freedom#ForeverUnschooled
When it comes to this Unschooling journey we’ve been on for over 10 years, one thing I’m most grateful for: Learning how to Allow my children to..just..Be…as a result, I’ve gotten a chance to see the many ways that action can manifest itself..2 Sundays ago, made 18 years since my youngest blessed me w/ the privilege to be the vessel she came through..I continue to sit at her feet as she teaches me..Warrior Goddess and Entrepreneur Extraordinaire that she is, it’s no surprise that in addition to celebrating her Bornday, she Officially had her new company, Kouture Kits, go Live…As I reminisce on the first time she wrote a book and went into business for herself when she was 7yrs old, over the last year, it’s been Liberating to watch her put her 2nd company together, this time, from scratch…from designing her own logos, to doing the math for her overhead vs profit, to putting her own website and marketing plan together..never mind volunteering at the animal hospital as she prepares to become a Veterinarian, applying, getting into and receiving full rides at all colleges she deemed acceptable, completing her senior year classes she picked out herself, teaching herself how to do all sorts of hairstyles (she did the dye job in the pic) and coping in a pandemic, I look forward to continuing to watch her grow…Happy 18th BorndayAnd Run, don’t walk, to get Your Kouture Kits Today: Https://kouturekits.com
I’M SO EXCITED!!NEW Video Out, of a poetic jazz experience called “Smile” by Konshens Themc and I’m featured in it You’ll see my Smiling face between the 35 second and 37 second mark (Click here to watch)..what I know is no coincidence: when Konshens put out the word last summer for these Smile pics, I was just starting to process a Major Heartbreak I’d caused myself (because I’m not a victim) and had just returned from watching the sunrise over the bay to assist in healing my heart..I’d snapped a pic of my peaceful smile as I sat out there that morning..so no surprise to me that at the exact moment my Smiling pic is about to pop up in this video, Konshens is saying – “Smiles be brighter than the Sun..or even a sign from the universe saying…Nah, I’m not done”..In spite of the pain I was going through at that time, I’m grateful I knew it didn’t mean the end of my world…Divine timing, Divine order..big thanks to Konshens for including me..I smiled the Entire time I watched this and appreciate the reminder at the end: Have you Smiled Today?